Master The Art of Persuasion

 

All people want it their way.

 

You have been trying to persuade since you were a baby: crying, smiling, practicing that pageant wave and banging your hands on the table. It’s primitive for sure but effective. Babies tend to get their way.

 

Remember going to the ice cream parlor and begging for that ice cream cone? That was persuasion. Remember dating in high school? That was persuasion.

 

But now that you have a title you need to keep up that tenacity because now you can attain more with the crown and sash! If the title is all about opportunities then this is your make it or break it time to shine. Now that you have a chance to fulfill your dreams you have to call on a different set of skills (No more crying and throwing fits!) you have the natural agility to persuade. All you have to do is uncover it and practice.

 

Persuasion takes on many forms. You might want others to see your point of view regarding a subject, agree with your ideas or take action. Persuasion is a skill and a science. It can be learned and mastered in ways that aren’t offensive and yet very successful.

 

Persuasion is not just a selling skill. Persuasion is a life skill. To master it you have to change the way you think and interact with others. That includes everything from what you wear to what your body says – from hand gestures to the spoken word.

 

Look at the way others persuade you. When you’re asked to do things, why do you do them? What better way to learn persuasion than by seeing yourself being persuaded? Especially when you take action and lose the result?

 

What trips you trigger? Fear? Vanity? Greed?

 

The key to persuasion is to make sure the person you want to persuade feels great about seeing in your way. To accomplish that, there has to be an understanding of how to best persuade.

 

How do you persuade others? Get them to persuade themselves. That is done best by asking questions.

 

To understand how this works, consider.

 

Persuasion as a Science: You can learn to persuade. You can learn the best way to persuade in each given situation of your life, your business life and your sale life.

 

Persuasion is an art. You never cross the line to pushy. You show reserve and poise. In short “be cool”!

 

Persuasion is compromise. Often some give and take will be required for you to get you to your win.

 

Persuasion involves excellent communication skills. It’s the way you put your words together, the way you say them. It’s in your expressions and expressiveness. These elements make or break persuasion.

 

Persuasion requires excellent questioning skills. It’s getting the other person to see your perspective by answering your questions. Ask “Why do you think this happened” or “What made this happen and how can I be of assistance?” Don’t tell “This is why it happened” the difference is subtle but powerful.

 

Persuasion requires excellent listening skills. Listening is one of the most difficult elements of persuasion because it requires patience. The tow word secret of patience and listening is not “shut up” it’s “taking notes”. Taking mental notes and then writing them down after your conversation eliminates miscommunication and shows it’s important to you!

 

Persuasion is getting the other person to convince themselves. If you question, listen, make mental notes and seek clarification, your answers and your point of view will become obvious!

 

Persuasion is preparation. You have to gather the right information, create the right questions, uncover the right hot or action buttons and act on them.

 

Persuasion is an outcome. Persuasions happy outcome is manipulation free. Manipulated persuasion is short-lived. True persuasion exists when it lasts beyond the moment.

 

Persuasion is victory! It’s not just your victory because you got your way. It’s persuading with harmony so everyone feels great. It’s is an art to make someone not only do the things you want them to do but to also make them feel good about doing it for you.

 

The ultimate victory line sung by Elvis and Sinatra was “I did it my way!” If these great singers were the masters of persuasion they would of sung “I did it my way – and everyone agreed with me and felt good!”